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Chances are you already know we’re in Mercury retrograde — and don’t necessarily track planetary transits. Everyone is blaming everything that goes wrong on the backward spin of Mercury that has been happening since May 14.

True, Mercury retrograde surprises you with the unexpected and the unwanted, usually in situations related to your past. (Looking at you, ex.)

And that’s really the point. That rewinding motion of the retrograde is copied in your life. It asks – some would say pushes – you to revisit and reevaluate to see where you are and what attitudes or past versions of yourself you need to overcome them once and for all. Can leave behind Consider going retrograde to find all the “again” words in relation to your life. Review. revaluation. rethink. Refocus.

During the current Mercury retrograde, you can add relationships to that list. The prevailing astrological sign at this time is Taurus, which means that everything in our experience is influenced and experienced through the lens of its ruling planet, Venus. Venerated by the ancients as a goddess, Venus emphasizes beauty, love, and culture.

While Mercury is renowned for misdirection and miscommunication, Venus emphasizes security and is easy-going. These combined influences force you to confront any tendency to satisfy your emotional needs that may be present in the dynamics of your current or former relationships.

Yes, retrograde Mercury can bring confusion in situations and ideas. But that doesn’t necessarily equate to something negative or terrible. You may find that this eventually brings clarity to your experience.

And this is the deep lesson of Mercury retrograde. It’s about you no longer holding yourself hostage to your past situations, stories, and expectations.

How Mercury Retrograde Affects Your Relationships

Each astrological transit affects each person slightly differently depending on the position of the planets in your birth chart. Whichever house Taurus occupies on your chart, that area of ​​life will be most affected during this Mercury retrograde.

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Take a moment and consider whether your current situation has been a recurring theme in your relationships. If this sounds familiar, it might be time to consider whether the other constant in these situations is, well, you.

This is not an allegation or indictment. It is an acceptance of being human. With that experience inevitably come faulty perceptions and patterns that become the lens through which you experience the world. Retrograde can bring situations that challenge the story you are telling yourself that may not align with the objective reality of a situation.

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When Venus is taking care of things, there’s no more happy time to reconsider self-love and your relationship with beauty. Let this be a time of reevaluation and revelation.

Ask yourself again and again how do you want to see yourself? You may experience an impulse to volunteer, disrupt your everyday routine, be honest with someone you care about, or find yourself believing in your potential as a human being. Allow

Overwhelmed by the desire to enhance your outer beauty? There is nothing wrong in this. You can suddenly tidy up your workspace, wash your car, dye your hair the color you’ve been wanting for years, or splurge on those high heels. Just remind yourself, it’s not the physical change that counts. That’s how change affects how you present yourself and life is what’s needed.

Your primary love affair is always with yourself. Only from there can you decide and work toward having a loving relationship with someone else in your life, if that’s what you want. In the meantime, be your soul mate. Create a place to sit and read, schedule a massage, join that yoga retreat, sign up for that men’s group, or just sit outside at night and enjoy the universe.

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Expect the unexpected in terms of friends, family, coworkers, and, yes, flirtation that you haven’t seen or thought about in ages. The purpose of these visits is not to harass you. They want to coax you into more objective awareness, whether it’s around a past situation or a past version of yourself.

If you choose to re-engage in a situation, try to maintain some degree of self-awareness at all times. Do you still feel the same disappointment or frustration that you once did around this person? Are you able to consider the possibility of a version of what happened other than the story you’re telling yourself? Are you in a less emotionally charged place where you can discuss what happened?

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Venus-influenced Mercury retrograde is bound to make at least one cameo in your most intimate relationships. Chances are this will be where you fall into emotional avoidance. (We said Mercury retrograde was misunderstood. We never said it was easy.)

If you are allowing underlying concerns to remain latent or unresolved, you cannot expect them to go unnoticed during the coming weeks. Always the trickster, Mercury points to situations where a miscommunication or lack of communication will turn out to be more annoying than usual. It would likely become unbearably oppressive. Quite simply, it will no longer be an option to go unnoticed and come out in small, sarcastic ways.

Mercury creates precisely these conditions so that you can face the underlying difficulty and actually address the underlying problem that you have been ignoring or avoiding. It’s also worth asking yourself, are you still holding on to the same frustrations from a past relationship and taking it out on your current partner?

Whatever the problem, it is time to face it. Or, explained another way, it’s your chance to internalize your love to the point that asking for what you really want is no longer an option in the case of an emotionally supportive relationship. That is the effect of Venus.

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If you’re in any sort of ship and considering whether you want to stay or part ways, Mercury’s retrograde can help you reconcile where you really are with things.

Maybe you appreciate the physical connection but your person feels emotionally distant most of the time. Or you’re not sure how to deal with your partner being busy at work. If you’ve been letting things slide, there could be some Mercury-induced mistakes that will cause you to consider your situation differently.

Essentially, you want to figure out whether your worries are a challenging but real part of being in a relationship or whether it’s an emotionally unstable dynamic that’s causing you harm.

When you draw your attention back to yourself (see “Self” above), you’ll be able to see your situation with greater clarity. The more you withdraw into yourself, the more clearly you may be able to perceive your current dynamic. If you experience frequent misgivings about whether or not you can trust your person, you can muster up a sense of the necessary resolve. Understand whether your mistrust is unfounded or come to terms with the fact that you can no longer tolerate being in a relationship where you experience constant mistrust.

There is no need to force a resolution. Stay curious and allow yourself to become more and more aware. But don’t completely depend on Mercury to take care of the rest. Some adjustments on your part may be in order.

If you are in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship, you can get help any time of the day or night through the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Call 800-799-SAFE(7233), text “START” to 88788, or join the live chat on their website.

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